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A survivor-centered call for a national 24/7 hotline for homicide survivors, offering trauma-informed support, legal-system navigation, and peer connection after murder loss.

Explores traumatic grief after the death of a loved one, including how shared memory, identity, and physiological connection can make bereavement feel like losing part

A reflection on the invisible emotional labor homicide survivors carry in everyday conversations, and why being with other survivors can reduce the need to edit

Discusses suicide risk after homicide loss, warning signs to watch for, ways friends and family can respond, and where to seek immediate crisis support.

Explores how alcohol, drugs, and other numbing behaviors can become tempting after traumatic grief or violent loss, and why safer support is essential for recovery.

A survivor-centered look at what true crime leaves out: the waiting, aftermath, traumatic grief, and real human cost for families after homicide.

Explains how stress, threat perception, emotional dysregulation, and impaired impulse control can contribute to homicidal behavior without excusing violence.

Examines perpetual readiness, chronic stress, and how constant activation affects the body and mind, with reflections on learning to unclench.

Explores how overturned murder convictions can reopen traumatic grief for homicide survivors and why healing cannot depend on the legal system alone.

A nuanced look at the families of people who commit murder, the misplaced blame they often face, and the complexity behind violent outcomes.

A recent, evolving case (at the time of this writing) pertains to a father who killed eight children in Louisiana. It has received limited national

Have you ever looked at a cloud and seen a face?Or heard something in the night and felt—instantly—that someone was there? Most of us have

We were sitting in a restaurant, the kind where conversation flows easily—stories, laughter, a sense of ease. At one point, someone asked how we ended

There is a moment in early grief—often invisible to others—when the world becomes too full of decisions. Not just the big ones. Not just the

When someone is murdered, there is a moment—however devastating—when reality drops. But when someone is missing, that moment never comes. Instead, there is a void,

There’s a gesture I’ve seen over and over again—in others, and in myself. Maybe you have, too. A hand rises, without thinking, and rests against

She was eight years old when her older brother was murdered. She easily recalls the days her house filled with people she didn’t know. Adults

Not long ago, a waitress approached my table and asked, “Are you Jan?” When I said yes, she explained that she’d recently seen me on