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When someone is murdered, there is a moment—however devastating—when reality drops. But when someone is missing, that moment never comes. Instead, there is a void,

There’s a gesture I’ve seen over and over again—in others, and in myself. Maybe you have, too. A hand rises, without thinking, and rests against

She was eight years old when her older brother was murdered. She easily recalls the days her house filled with people she didn’t know. Adults

Not long ago, a waitress approached my table and asked, “Are you Jan?” When I said yes, she explained that she’d recently seen me on

There are moments after a violent death when we come to understand that broadcast media has lied to us. It’s when a movie or television

One of the questions homicide survivors are asked — sometimes gently, sometimes insistently or implied — is this: “Have you forgiven them?” “Have you ever

On the winter streets of Minneapolis in early 2026, two American citizens — Renée Nicole Good and Alex Jeffrey Pretti — were shot and killed

Homicide Loss Is Often Held in the Body First After a homicide, many survivors are encouraged to “talk about it.”Friends, family, and even professionals often

Most of us rely on intuition more than we admit. >>We feel drawn to call someone out of the blue. >>We sense danger. >>We walk

The first thing to disappear is anonymity. A last name becomes searchable. A childhood photo becomes evidence. Ordinary moments—holidays, school memories, a parent’s voice on

Author’s note: This is written from a trauma-informed perspective. It focuses on how unexpected personal boundary violations affect the nervous system for people with trauma

What would you think if you opened your mail and found a bill labeled “Your share of the cost of homicide”? Unthinkable? Not really. It’s

The book Getting Life: An Innocent Man’s 25-Year Journey from Prison to Peace by Michael Morton is one of the most powerful memoirs I’ve read

Grief is not a competition. There is no scale for the heartache of loss, ranging from first, second, or third place. I want to say

Our society frames grief as something earned by proximity. Spouses, parents, children, and siblings are automatically considered hardest hit by loss (though some siblings I’ve

The recent double homicide involving Rob Reiner and his wife, Michele, now making national headlines, has understandably shaken many people. When violence enters what we

After a homicide, the nervous system recalibrates itself for survival. It begins scanning for danger with a frequency and intensity that once made perfect sense

After listening again to my conversation with Sandra Champlain, host of the podcast We Don’t Die, what stayed with me most wasn’t any single topic